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December is for getting things done, January is for BS
I try to never do New Year’s resolutions. Statistically speaking they’re the path to failure. If you are committed to doing something big, you’ll do it now. Also, in December people have a sense that...
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The secret for keeping a New Year’s resolution: KPIs
Each of us is only as effective as the questions we ask. So understanding the process of asking good questions is essential to our success. 1. Ask questions about what you care about. A great example...
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Simplifying life has nothing to do with all your stuff
I have never filed my taxes on time. Ever. It’s very annoying when people blame every little thing on their parents, so I’m not going to tell you that year after year my mom would let my dad do their...
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Leaving your options open sets you back
When I was trying to get on the national volleyball tour, that was the only thing I was focused on. So eventually, I played professional beach volleyball. When I was trying to get my memoir published,...
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5 Steps to take to make time for everything
The people who look like they have everything they want are actually the people who are most clear on what they are willing to give up. Do you ever feel sad that you have never visited the moon?...
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A celebration of failed New Year’s resolutions
The pressure is mounting for the New Year’s resolutions posts. First is the flurry of pitches from public relations firms that want to get their clients into the press. “Resolve to clean your house...
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What neurologists tell us about goal setting
You should set goals because striving to meet a goal makes you happier. This is because a goal gives us structure and purpose, but also once you set a goal, your brain feels like you have already...
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I just read about the life-changing magic of tidying up
As someone who compulsively throws stuff out, I was thrilled to hear that the bestselling book worldwide right now is about throwing stuff out: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo....
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ENTJ course: Accomplish whatever you want. Then do it again.
This live, online course runs Sept. 28 – Oct. 1 at 8pm Eastern. The cost is $195. Sign up now! I remember the shock of finding out I was an ENTJ. It’s so embarrassing to find out that all you care...
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How to change a habit
If you want to make a change in your life you need to change something in your routine. Gretchen Rubin writes a lot about this in her book about habits, which I read to figure out how to stop eating...
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3 Things to take off your to do list right now
Make a list of five things you want to do that you’re not doing. Now cross out all but one. Everyone can make change in our lives, but not that much change. And you’re not making the change you really...
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Grit is overrated; the hardest worker never wins
The people with the most grit are really poor or really neglected and they overcome those circumstances. But why aspire to that? We glorify it like life is one big Horatio Alger story. Working smart...
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Improve goal-setting by understanding how it fails
I take anti-anxiety drugs. I say that so I can deny that they also function as anti-depressants. Because I think I’m too old to still be depressed from a traumatic childhood. But it seems logical that...
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Meet the people who are best at meeting goals
I tell my husband tidbits about the kids because part of my strategy to get him to relocate to Swarthmore is to keep him feeling close to us. I tell him my younger son is winning more on his video...
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What it’s like to audition at Juilliard. When you’re 11.
The first round of auditions for Juilliard’s pre-college program is by video. From December to March my son practiced for three hours a day to prepare. At the end of March we recorded him playing...
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My son was accepted to Juilliard!
This is my son on registration day at Juilliard. We are so excited. But not surprised. That’s what happens when you work this hard. You are not surprised. I am told it’s rare for a kid to get into...
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It only takes 15 minutes to do 99% of the things you want to accomplish
To figure out whether or not you really want to meet a goal you’re not meeting, clear fifteen minutes a day in your calendar. Tell yourself one very small thing you can do in that fifteen minutes to...
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The art of the Covid career: string together thoughts while you homeschool
I am in between one son practicing his cello and one son writing his college essays. After ten years of homeschooling while being the breadwinner, my parent intuition tells me one kid is only going...
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Dispatches from Thanksgiving
Nino, my still-an-ex husband, got out of his really-just-a-mattress-on-the-floor bed for the first time two days ago, so that he could go get a test for Covid. I thought my son would have the scoop on...
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What happens if you ditch talk therapy and focus on behavior? (And Happy...
I’m in New Orleans on the floor of my hotel room while Z sleeps. He sleeps in the middle of the day so we can go out at night. The first night we saw jazz bands at 2am. Accidentally. They were so loud...
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